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Because of these things occurring in their marriage, instead of turning away from their ways and toward God they just gave up thinking God could not change things and had feelings of hopelessness. (Jeremiah 32:27 "I am the Lord, the God of all mankind, is anything too hard for me?") In their pain and hurt, they decide they have to do something instead of turning to God. They only see the marriage as the source of the pain, just like the people in Jerusalem saw the Babylonians as the only source of their pain. They were so focused on the "enemy", instead of God, they tore down their homes as a means to get rid by the Babylonians. The Lord showed me that divorce was the tearing down of the marriage as the means to end the pain. Because God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) and divorce is against Him and His will for His people - divorce is sinning against God. When people continue towards divorce, when still married or after divorce, they continue to believe what they did was right and not a sin, they put themselves in a place (separated from God) the same as any other sin that is not recognized and repented (Isaiah 59:2). God does not change His ways. The separation from God that sin (divorce) causes the Lord much pain but He is also angry because His children do not recognize how they are separating themselves from Him. "They will be filled with the dead bodies of the men I will slay in My anger" (Jeremiah 33:5)

The Lord showed me that the dead bodies in the divorced marriage were the husbands, wives and children - they are dead in the sin of divorce. Through divorce, they sought a relief from pain, but actually they continue in a worse place as a result of separation from God. They sought to remain "alive" by taking action in their own hands, but God says He will slay them in His anger. There is no defense against God. Just as with any sin that is not recognized and turned away from, God says in the same verse: "I will hide my face from this city (the family) because of all its wickedness." Whether you are married and heading for divorce or are already divorced, where there is no recognition of sin and only justification of divorce, you will remain in this place separated from God. (1 John 1:9,10) However when you are married and turn from divorce and turn towards God; or after divorce, you recognize the divorce as sin and turn towards God for healing and forgiveness; and as the result of turning towards God there is forgiveness and softening of the heart towards the spouse or ex-spouse, the Lord says in Jeremiah 33: 6-11 (written out above).

The Lord's ultimate plan is restoration of His people - complete restoration to accomplish His purposes. So His glory can be seen by others to draw them to Him. Restoration shows His love - unlimited patience - forgiveness, faithfulness and mercy. Read Ezekiel 36:25, 30-36

If you are thinking you can get divorced then return to the Lord for the healing and restoration - that He will understand, there are consequences to divorce that are still there even after the healing and restoration. The Lord showed me that the consequences are:

There is a tie that will always exist between you and your former spouse (Matthew 19:6 and Mark 10:9). This tie is like an undercurrent that is just there. No act of will can get rid of it. I believe this is the main reason why bitterness and anger is the most common feelings between divorced spouses. The bitterness and anger is directed against situations and character faults but underneath, the anger is at the fact the divorce never cuts that tie. They saw divorce as a severing - forever free from the mate. The result is anger and rebellion against the reality that the connection between them continues on despite what they do. Acceptance to the fact the "connection" is there and will always be there - just like an arm - is the key to peace and developing Godly attitudes towards the former spouse. The consequence, however, is the reality that this "connection" is carried along with you, like an extra piece, into any subsequent marriage. This "extra piece" can manifest itself many ways in remarriages especially if there are children involved. However, the most unchangeable effect that will inevitably be seen is that the quality of oneness can never be the same as in a marriage where there was no prior marriage. If you have only been married once, it would be difficult to understand this.

Over the years, I have seen the major consequence of divorce is the effect on the children. Sometimes they blame themselves for imaginary reasons, feeling there must have been something they could have or should have done. Beyond that, they are forever torn between two parents, having to make decisions and feel feelings that God did not intend children to have to endure. God intended children to be nurtured and protected, not exposed to ripping and tearing apart of their home and lives. Many times the parents can go on with their lives, while the children suffer in silence or in rebellion. In the Ten Commandments, God says He will "Punish the children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation of those who hate Me." (Exodus 20:6) I believe when parents put their own wants and perceived needs before God's will for the family, they are creating an idol in their heart - they have sinned and the children reap the consequences. Deuteronomy 6:4 5-9 says "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the door frames of your houses and on your gates." You could have done all these things as God directs, but by your action of divorce, in your child's mind, you have set up confusion and are nullifying everything you have taught them. You have provided a way, by your actions, for your children to justify not walking in God ways. To my shame, I provided that way for both my daughters and whether consciously or unconsciously, both of them have taken that way and have not followed God's way.

The Lord has also revealed to me over the past few years that whatever reason you use for getting a divorce, you neglect to look at what the Lord is trying to do within you through the circumstances that you are going through. Actually, you are running away from what the Lord is trying to do in your life and within you. The Lord will find a way to bring you back to the same issues again sometime in your life. You will be forced to deal with the same issues again, unless of course, you keep running. This is part of the refining process. The old testament is full of situations where the Lord kept bringing the Israelites back to the same place so they would look only to Him. Many times the Israelites choose not to look to God, not to trust in His provision and will for their lives and they and their children suffered the consequences of their choice.

"This day I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live and that you may love the Lord your God, listen to His voice, and hold fast to Him. For the Lord is your life, and He will give you many years in the land He swore to give to your fathers, Abraham, Isaac and Jacob." Deuteronomy 30:19-20

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